Self care is important for anyone of any age, but in our teen years as our bodies and minds are constantly changing and adapting, it is vital. Self care is looking after your physical and emotional health and this can be any activity that assists with making you feel happy, healthy and positive.
Everyone has varying methods of self care. Some love to take soothing bubble baths, others enjoy exercise such as yoga or running and find it relaxing. Some want to spend time with friends or family face to face or go on day trips. For other people, self care could be curling up with a good book or TV show, meditating to clear your mind or partaking in a much loved hobby or craft, promoting mindfulness.
Practising self care can not only improve your own mental health, but it also helps relieve the pressures on yourself and family life too. As a teen it can sometimes be challenging relating to your parents and arguments can be frequent, particularly if you are struggling with depression, anxiety, school friendships or relationships. Self care activities can help calm you and assist a positive atmosphere.
Whitney Bell at Teen Vogue says,
‘Self care isn’t always bubble baths and pretty candles, sometimes it’s just getting out of bed, taking a shower, and reminding yourself how amazing you are. Self-love is meeting yourself exactly where you are at with compassion and love. It is knowing what serves you, and removing the things that don’t. Our worth isn’t determined by the clothes we wear, or by how many people have crushes on us.
Outside validation might feel great for a second but it will quickly pass. Everyone’s mental health journey is their own…Allow space for your growth and remind yourself of your worth by investing in your health, your head, and your heart.’
Many teens struggle with self esteem and self worth as they develop into adults. It is important to focus on mindful techniques like repeating positive affirmations about yourself such as ‘I am worthy’ or ‘I am enough’. Some recommend saying these daily to yourself in the mirror or writing them out in a journal.
What can help promote better mental health and self care?
1) Get out in nature
In the busy technology focused world we live in, nature can be very soothing. A walk in the park, on the beach or by a lake can help calm and relax us. The fresh air and exercise can also help to clear the mind. Similarly, gardening has a soothing effect, especially if you are growing a bright happy plant like sunflowers. Try it for yourself.
2) Spend time with friends or family
This could be face to face over a cup of tea, if you feel able. If you are struggling with a mental health condition and feel up to it, you can video chat or talk on the phone to friends. Human contact makes us feel connected, less isolated but make sure it’s with a good friend and people you trust, that support you and make you feel good.
3) Learn a new hobby to beat stress
You could learn a new creative craft like sewing or knitting or if fashion and beauty is more your thing, take a make up course. You may want to take up a sport or if you like writing and social media, start a blog or Youtube channel. Whatever it is, it should help with your self care and not make you more stressed! Mindful crafts can be very healing. Other activities that help with distracting the mind include reading a good book or listening to calming music.
4) Take care of your physical health to boost mindset
Make sure you look after your physical care too- a healthy, balanced, nutritious diet and go to sleep at the same time each day. If you struggle with this, reach out to your support network to help if you have insomnia or anxiety. Listening to sleep hypnosis, deep muscle relaxation or a guided meditation can really help you to switch off at night. Additionally, if you are a teen struggling with an eating disorder, your self care could mean you need to reach for further support and speak to a specialist to help you. Additionally, make sure to stay away from drugs and alcohol, which can be depressants.
5) Its OK to let it out, cry or journal
If you are going through a hard time, it’s good to talk and most importantly to cry to release those pent up emotions. You can also write in a private journal about how you are feeling or talk to a trusted friend or parent. Don’t bottle it up as it will make you feel worse. In addition to regular self care, it is vital to speak to your GP or psychiatrist if you are struggling. You may need medication or to be referred for therapy, two other very important forms of self care. Most importantly, be kind to yourself.
See this Mind page for a list or organisations that can help you.
Teen Calm is a subscription box for anxious teens, learn more at www.teencalm.com